While considering what to buy for Mother’s Day Gifts, I realize in all my years of being a mother, all I truly wanted was
Today I celebrate all the Mothers in my life. My birth mother, my two mothers-in-law, my grandmothers, my darling, generous girlfriends who care for my children when work commitments take me away. I adore giving you Mother’s Day gifts. You have given me gifts beyond measure. I love you with all my heart.
I’m Proud to Share how I’m celebrating my “Mom” friends by giving them Time Away From It All. To be women. No kids. No partners. No demands. Just us. And food. And pampering. And little handmade gifts. And pristine bathrooms where they may peacefully toilet without interruption.
My goal is to say to them, “Thank you for being you. I honor you for your role as a Mother.” I believe my gift of Time Away From It All conveys this message more than any bouquet or queue-for-an-hour-after-making-reservations-2-weeks-ago can.
This is not to say the bouquets and Mother’s Day brunches and lavish gifts aren’t lovely and appreciated. We applaud you for trying your best. It’s just not this girl’s cup of tea these days. My guess is if you asked most Moms out there which they’d prefer, they’d be in my camp. Jus’ sayin’…
“Have a heart that never hardens, a temper that never tires, a touch that never hurts.”
~ Charles Dickens
Two years ago (yep…for those doing the Math – my first Mother’s Day as a Mom of 3), I began celebrating Mother’s Day with a select group of friends. We began with food (don’t all good things begin with food?!) After brunch, we went to a spa and got our nails done. Mother’s Day was all about Us Being Women. General pampering was the goal. My kids missed me while I was away. However, I’m guessing it’s only because society dictated Mother’s Day was a day when Mommy was supposed to be spending Quality Time with her children, doing “Mommy” things.
I don’t buy it.
And I won’t perpetuate the myth. Nope. I don’t want to be “on call” on Mother’s Day. I want MY day to be for ME. Celebrating ME by giving ME a Break. By granting me PEACE. I am so Blessed to have a partner who gets it. He honors me and takes over all childcare duties on Mother’s Day. In fact, he helped me make the Mother’s Day shift 2 years ago by buying me a gift card to the spa. I ran with it. I called up my girlfriends and invited them to come with me. I was floored by the overwhelming Yes replies I received. And a Mother’s Day tradition (“evolution”?) began.
For the Super Moms out there, this whole idea may seem selfish. I promise not to judge or scorn you. Won’t you grant me the same Mother’s Day gifts?
Kay, thanks. 😉